Magic Circle of Recovery.
1. Preparing to Face the Challenge
After a terrible time, healing is easier when a safe space is found. Very bad news, such as a serious diagnosis or accident, job loss, ending of a close relationship, assault, war and similar situations, can cause severe stress. Too much stress can get in the way of recovery because it tends to suppress the immune system. It inhibits the body’s own production of cells, T-lymphocytes and macrophages, that fight for health on its behalf.
Ready for the miracle?
People who survive terrible times share some or all of the following traits – they are:
open-minded about solutions and accepting of the paradoxes and mystery of the process;
willing to draw on their own resources, to discover and develop them rather than readily surrendering to dependency;
appreciative of the effect of the mind and spirit on the body and displaying faith in holistic forces;
flexible about outcomes, accounting for risks and able to, or willing to learn, to express emotions, especially around the problem.
Effective steps for fighting back include:
Selecting the best advisers, such as doctors, and when satisfied, following their advice;
Accessing someone who is willing and able to act as a sensible and sensitive coach/counsellor for help carrying out the plans;
Exercising, even a very little to start with, which is vitalising for body and mind, especially for its aerobic effects. Breathing properly is a skill that can’t be underestimated for the boost it continually gives to the body’s natural defences.
Examining beliefs and attitudes is important because they largely determine reactions. Due to personal blind-spots, others might provide useful input. Journalling can also be very illuminating in this regard.
Eating well and keeping informed of nutritional facts in order to keep improving diet. We are what we eat.
Harnessing the power of the mind to calm and cure the body. The placebo effect is ample evidence for the mind’s role in physical experience. Examples include meditation, affirmations, hypnosis, self-talk, visualisations relaxation etc.
Having purpose and goals which strengthens and motivates, providing reasons to stay and become active again.
Relying on social support, or gaining true friendship in place of slack companions, which brings many enriching rewards.
Practising some kind of spirituality.
Becoming mindful enough to self-monitor and notice what’s working versus what’s not in order to constantly modify behaviour in the service of the desired goals.